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starstraf, the letter F, and the number 5... Crushes!
- Do you remember your first crush? Did you tell them?
- Did you have a crush on a teacher? Which one?
- Do you still have crushes? Do you ever tell them?
- What is your opinion of someone telling your crush object you have a crush?
- What does "having a crush" mean to you?
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June 29 2012, 21:57:15 UTC 10 months ago
I guess my first crush was on one of the husband of one of my mom’s friends, who used to tickle and play-wrestle with me and apparently I was just wild about him—and even pretty mean to his wife, like I was jealous of her. But I was three years old, so I don’t think I was really conscious of what I was feeling or what it meant. He (and his wife and my mom) had a better idea of what was going on than I did.
Did you have a crush on a teacher? Which one?
No. I remember my classmates being all a-twitter about our middle school health teacher, and looking back he was pretty cute, but I guess I was still staunchly in my latency phase or something and didn’t really get what all the fuss was about. I don’t remember any of my high school teachers being crush material—and honestly, I think that's a good thing. Even in the best case scenario it's super awkward for the teacher as they always have to worry about not sending the wrong message.
Do you still have crushes? Do you ever tell them?
I guess I have some passing crush feelings now and then, but since I’m monogamous and happy with my partner it hasn’t even occurred to me to act on them.
What is your opinion of someone telling your crush object you have a crush?
If you’re both available and you’re interested in seeing them, I think you should go for it pretty quickly. Waiting around pining for them isn’t likely to increase their chances of liking you back; conversely, it’s more likely to plant you firmly in the Friend or Creepy Stalker zone. Even if they reject you, you’re better off knowing sooner than later so it’s that much sooner you can move on.
However, if they’re not available or you’re not available, for goodness sake don’t say anything! Nothing good can come of it.
What does "having a crush" mean to you?
I think of a “crush” as the first stage of romantic interest in someone. You’re attracted to them physically and probably know enough about their personality to see (or think you see) potential, but you’re not in love. I think many younger, inexperienced people mistake crushes for love because that’s the most intense form of romantic/physical attraction they’ve ever felt, but crushes are kind of the “empty calories” of love; they’re just that temporary stage of butterflies and giddiness without the real substance of true love. They’re much more superficial and ephemeral.
June 30 2012, 02:58:45 UTC 10 months ago
It seems silly to NOT remember, but I don't think I do? I really had my head up my ass when it came to boys. I know I freaked out when any of them showed any kind of interest (even if it was the I-tease-you-because-I-like-you kind that I didn't recognize 'til later). I didn't even like my first "boyfriend" (I use the term loosely) but I was pretty sure I was the only girl on the planet who hadn't had one yet at the ripe old age of 14, so. It didn't take me long to figure out I was better off being by myself!
2. Did you have a crush on a teacher? Which one?
Yes! My chemistry teacher. Hubba hubba. Or maybe it was physics. Chemistry sounds more appropriate though!
3. Do you still have crushes? Do you ever tell them?
Yes, both my girlcrush and boycrush this year have been told ♥ Ha!
4. What is your opinion of someone telling your crush object you have a crush?
Ugh, that's so middle school!
5. What does "having a crush" mean to you?
Oh jeez. *blush*
July 1 2012, 00:30:01 UTC 10 months ago
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July 1 2012, 12:47:13 UTC 10 months ago
Hahaha, yes to both. I liked this boy in sixth grade. We'll call him D. I left a note on D's desk letting him know I liked him. I was ugly and nerdy as fuck then, though, so I'm not surprised he rejected me.
Did you have a crush on a teacher? Which one?
Oh boy. The high school art teacher came one day and pulled me out of my English class. I thought I had done something wrong. But he says to me, "So, you're [name]?" And I said, yes, I was, and he said, "I've heard so much about you! I just wanted to meet you!" And we shook hands.
My best friend teased me so much about it but I must admit I did have a bit of a crush on the art teacher after that.
Do you still have crushes? Do you ever tell them?
I wouldn't call them "crushes" but I do feel attraction towards men. Usually I don't tell them, although as of late I have become more emboldened and do try to let a guy know if I like them.
What is your opinion of someone telling your crush object you have a crush?
I strongly dislike when people do that. I have a mouth of my own that works; I can tell the object of my affections about my feelings on my own.
What does "having a crush" mean to you?
I would say feeling attracted to a person and wanting to get closer to them.